Here's a sliver of the type of conversation we've had more than once:"Jesus used to say..." (boyfriend says) "Please don't quote Jesus.
You know it makes me uncomfortable." (me, all squirmy) "I wish you would open your mind a bit more.
You would be such a powerful Christian woman..." (him, being sincere) "You'll never convert me! " (me, in near tears) "Jesus's love for me is real." (him, unwavering) "I wish you would read Hitchens! All of us." (him, unwavering) "You love him more than me." (me, in tears) "I do.
I can't help it." (him, pious)I do feel, in general, we are -- and are entitled to be -- harsher on our partner's views than with someone who isn't going to raise children with us, i.e. My boyfriend says I have a visceral reaction to anything Christian, but it's because deep down, I know he wants to proselytize me.
He's even admitted he hopes I'll "come around." I get so defensive and angry, I start throwing out obtuse generalizations like "religion has oppressed women for centuries!